Updated: May 22
We've all been there, in that moment in life when you feel that you cannot live like this anymore, you need to change something.
Like everyone, you probably juggle many tasks and roles and usually the trigger in these situations is a new or additional event, or task in your life. You are a great mom, a wonderful wife, the best sister, the perfect daughter, a reliable friend and maybe a volunteer at an organization. All this is already exhausting, so adding to this the fact that perhaps you have just started working again, after your maternity leave, or maybe you just had a new baby, or you have too many tasks in your daily life. Don't blame yourself, it is normal to feel that you don't have time and energy to cope with everything. And you don't have to!
You feel you need to say stop and change something in your current lifestyle. The first step is done, acknowledging it's ok not to be ok is the most important step in this journey. Self management will be your best best for to be able to get along with everything going on in your life. You should focus on the things that you can powerfully influence. You need to train yourself to focus on what you really want, instead of what you think others think that you should want or have.
Some great questions to consider, are:
What are your priorities?
What is the most important for YOU in life?
What is currently missing in your life?
What would you change about your life?
Why do you need a change?
If fear wouldn't be an issue, what would you pursue in your life?
If you found your answers, start small. Step by step figure out how can you incorporate your ideas and needs to your current situation. Make a plan, only baby steps. You'll see, you will feel great every e time you will accomplish the small actions, you will feel closer to your target. Do you feel you don't have time to follow what you want? Delegate. Ask your partner to help more with the kids, maybe a nice neighbor can occasionally help you with the groceries for your parents, so that you save some extra time. You'll find a solution for everything you feel is holding you back. You'll adapt and adjust to the challenges.
Remember, it takes courage to live according to your plans!
"Psychologists define resilience as the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress—such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. As much as resilience involves “bouncing back” from these difficult experiences, it can also involve profound personal growth." - according to the American Psychologist Association.
The stress factors shouldn't control the outcome of your life. This is when resilience comes in, there are many things in life that you can control, change or grow with. You will feel empowered to grow and it will improve your life along the way.
Resilience is like a child, if you foster it, it will grow. You can increase your resilience by following just a few steps:
Take care of your body
Avoid negative outlets
Move toward your goals
Look for opportunities for self discovery
Keep things in perspective
Maintain a hopeful outlook
Learn from your past
Ask for help along the way
Remember start with small steps at a time. If you want to achieve to many this at a time, you feel again overwhelmed, which will demotivate you.
If one of your small steps is about decluttering your life, you should have a look at our article on Wardrobe detox
Live your life in more fun and in less stress!